Anal sex is not something that is experienced exclusively by gay men; it is experienced on a regular basis by heterosexual couples. Men and women of all walks of life enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking. It’s not for everyone, but anal sex may be what you’re looking for if you want to try something completely different.

Why do people enjoy anal sex?
Anal sex is enjoyable because of the rich body of nerve endings in the anus. While people often experience pain when first attempting anal sex, as you learn to relax, the pain often subsides into pleasure. For men, anal sex offers stimulation to the prostate, an organ that provides the rush of pleasure during orgasm. You can also insert your own fingers during masturbation.

Relax
To prepare yourself for anal sex, the first thing to do is learn to relax. This may include a hot bath beforehand, an erotic massage or even just a good workout. The sphincter muscles around the anus will not allow things to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow. Always pay attention to your partner to indicate whether or not they are comfortable.

Slow & Easy Does It
Do not start with something the size of a dildo or penis. Start with a well lubricated finger. Take the finger and arouse the surface of the anus by making small circular motions as you go. Slowly attempt to push your finger slightly inside the anus. Do not force your hand - stop if your partner complains of discomfort. If it is difficult to enter the anus, use more lubrication. If it is too uncomfortable stop and try again later. Later may mean some other time. Think of this process as training for later anal encounters. Even a finger can provide intense stimulation when inserted in the anus.

Finally, use your common sense. The rectal wall curves and is thin, be aware that long, hard objects can tear your insides. Don't wear any jewelry on your hands, and cut your fingernails if you are going to put your finger in someone's anus.

Experiment, there are many more positions and techniques to try. Find the one that suits you best. Good communication is the key to such discovery, and a manual or video can help as well.

Lubricants
Liberal amounts of lubrication are necessary because the rectal wall can be quite sticky and is subject to tearing and lesions if not kept lubricated. Never use Vaseline or any other petroleum oil based lube. Use plenty of water soluble lubrication when you try anal sex. I recommend Ease, it has a spermicidal that is believed to decrease HIV, or astrolabe, although it tends to be a little light. We especially like a lubricant called WET. It seems to stay around for a while. Use lots of lubricant. No such thing as too much lube. The more lube you use, the more comfortable you will be. You should remember that your anus and rectum do not have their own natural lubrication nor the kind of elasticity the mouth and vagina enjoy.

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